Throughout our lives we meet many people, and some of these relationships are short-lived and others are for the long term. We all need a friend for finding happiness in our lives, and both our short and long term friendships play a significant role in this happiness.
Is friendship for a lifetime? It is often hard to say because there is no right answer to this question; sometimes we expect that friendships are for a lifetime and in case of real friendship I am sure that friendship can exist as long you live.
Friendship is one of the most important things in our lives and we all have periods with problems or we need advice and having a good friend to turn to is a very nice thing to have. Even if you are married or in a relationship there are always items which you prefer to talk first with your friends; not that your husband or wife doesn’t want to listen to these problems but a friend often has another view on certain issues than the person you live with will.
A lifetime friendship can start when you are a little child but many times these friendships are only for a certain period. You get friends when you are going to school; to play with and probably you have many common interests. When you become older it is sometimes hard to keep these friendships alive. At this stage in your life you will both probably be in relationships or have gotten married. Keeping in touch is not always easy because very often you live far from each other and your free time is limited.
Most people are going to work outside and in the evening they spent most of the time with their husband or wife. If they have children it is often difficult to make time free for your childhood best friends but there are certainly friendships which can exist for a lifetime. Especially if you are in a sports club or another kind of activity which you share is perfectly possible that the friendship will be so close that you can give your friendship a lifetime agreement.
When you become an adult you will expand your circle and meet new friends. It mostly happens when you don’t expect it. This can be near the place you live, at work, during a travel or even online. On this stage of age you have other interests and also other kind of problems where you need a friend for. The key is making a friendship last is to make certain agreements to keep in touch with each other.
I don’t have strong friendship bounds from the time when I was a child or even from the time I was below 25 years old and it was not necessary to keep them alive. It happens from time to time that I meet some of my friends from that time but nothing happens to give it a chance to keep them alive.
I really believe that lifetime friendships exist and I was almost sure I found one eleven years ago. It happened during a travel to Andalusia (Spain). I frequently travel with a group and I made a few friends there. After this travel we set dates with five friends and came together 4 or 5 times years during the year to visit a museum or another cultural activity. We always finished these days with a nice dinner and made some other travels together. Our tour leader was one of the friends I made there but a few years ago she died. After this our group meetings disappeared but I have one friend from that time whom I now consider my friend for a lifetime.
I made one travel to Carinthia with this friend, also with an organized travel in group, and since then our friendship became closer. We called each other several times and a few years ago we started to visit different cities in our hometown. It happened in the beginning every two or three months but now we get together almost once a month. We also call each other several times a month because we don’t live in the same city and it is not possible to visit each other every week. Even if it was possible I doubt that visiting each other too often will have a good effect for a long time friendship.
The use of Internet makes it possible to find friends online. There are many dating sites where you can find friends online but most of them are searching for a relationship and if you are searching for a friend you will become disappointed. I found the last two years some good online friends in writing sites and some of them are now friends for more than a year. Keeping in touch is really not difficult; e-mail and messenger services make it possible to keep these friendships alive. These friendships are still young and it is difficult to say now if these friendships are for a lifetime but I really believe that some of them are for a lifetime.
Friendships are important in life and if you find a real friend I am quite sure that real friendships exist for a lifetime. It happens very frequently that friendships have a longer lifetime than a romantic relationship or a marriage and you can also have lifetime friendships with someone of the opposite sex. True friendship is really beautiful and offers you benefits for a lifetime.
Written by Erik
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